Two weeks ago, I nearly had a breakdown.

I was talking to my wife Sandy at dinner and I lost it. I started crying and told her I didn’t know what was wrong with me. 

Our business grew 50% last year, we have over 300 active clients in our program, and we made the Inc 5000. 

We have our dream home, take amazing vacations, and are financially secure. I have a beautiful family and everything I’ve ever dreamed of, and so much more. 

And despite my success, I was having trouble enjoying any of it.

Our growth has been relatively flat in 2026, and our profit margins are significantly lower. And it was stressing me out and impacting my ability to be fully present with my family. 

I was obsessing about the numbers, rather than focusing on what I can control: my effort, attitude, and energy. 

I wasn’t applying what I teach: focus on the process, not the prize. Do your best and let go of the rest.  

And it truly bothered me that I wasn’t able to fully enjoy the life I worked so hard to create (because I was afraid it could all go away). 

I suspected it wasn’t just a mental thing, that there was something happening in my nervous system that was keeping me locked in a state of stress and anxiety no matter how good things actually were. 

So the next day I went to see a Network Spinal Analysis specialist, which is similar to a chiropractor but focused on identifying and releasing tension and stress in the nervous system.

And that’s when the breakthrough happened.

As the tension started releasing from my body, for the first time I saw it clearly: I was doing this to myself. 

I had created my own prison by constantly putting pressure on myself to perform and grow. And that pressure was crushing me and preventing me from fully enjoying the life I had worked so hard to create. 

The business wasn’t broken and I wasn’t broken. It was my mind that needed rewiring. 

So I made a decision to change. 

I decided that from this point forward, I will live with joy, gratitude, and full trust. 

I will do my best and let go of the rest. 

I will show up fully present for my family, clients, and everybody in my life. 

I will embody kindness, love, and joy. 

That’s who I am, and that’s how I will show up every day! 

I took out a paper and drew a line in the middle. One side represents my old identity, and the other side represents my new identity. 

Here’s the identity shift I’m committed to living: 

From worry to joy. I’m choosing to be joyful every day, regardless of sales numbers

From striving to gratitude. I’m done living in the gap, which means feeling like I’m not where I’m supposed to be yet. Living in the gap means constantly chasing, and when you are always chasing something, you never arrive or appreciate where you are. And that’s no way to live. The truth is that I’m exactly where I’m meant to be and these are the best years of my life. 🙏

From pressure to acceptance. It’s been a genuinely hard year for a lot of people, with AI uncertainty, tech layoffs, and real fear driving people to pull back and play defense. Instead of living in scarcity and fear, I will accept whatever comes my way, find the gift in every problem, and be flexible as I ride the waves of life rather than trying to force the wind to blow in a different direction. 

From doing to being. We are human beings, not human doings. My job every day is simple: show up, serve from the heart, lead my team and clients with love and integrity, and trust that the rest will take care of itself. 

From control to trust. If I truly trust God, then I know that everything will be okay. Because God has always protected and provided for our family. There’s a true power in surrender: when you believe that everything is unfolding exactly as it’s supposed to, then challenges can be seen as “re-directs” towards God’s greater plan for your life. And that creates a LOT of relief in knowing that my higher power is in control and loves me unconditionally. Let go and let God.

Since making this decision, everything has changed. 

The past two weeks have been some of the lightest I’ve felt in years, with less anxiety, more presence, and a genuine sense of gratitude that I haven’t experienced in a long time. 

I’m still going to run a great business, take care of my team and my clients, and provide for my family at the highest level because that’s who I am. But I’m done making it about the number. Instead, I’m making it about showing up my best for the people in my life. Because that’s what they deserve. 

If you’re a high achiever who’s struggling to enjoy the life you’ve worked so hard to build, this week’s video is for you. Watch it here: https://youtu.be/Dk1HGC-FnsA